I am a self-confessed people watcher; I love nothing more than to sit with a drink and look at the world as it goes by. You can learn such a lot from just doing nothing (or so it seems).
While I have been thinking about blog posts for however many days I am doing them one thought came into my mind. Peeps blog about the music they have on in the background, now, what is that all about?
For me, on Myers-Briggs, I am an ENTP so when they told me at college no more office or quiet space to work that I would be ‘hot-desking’ I knew the end was nigh. I can’t bear sound when I am working and thinking. Oh…here comes a ’thought bubble’
‘that may be why I cannot multi-task anymore I much prefer one thing at a time’. and deffo no music when writing. Ok, I digress.
Now where was I?
Ah yes, music it got me thinking about my favourite music which is eclectic from folk to heavy metal, Motown, ballads, relaxation….I could go on. But my most favourite song of all is from ‘La Cage Aux Folles’ and is the finale number of the musical’s first act ‘I am what I am’. I don’t care who it is song by, Gloria Gaynor; Shirley Bassey; but if I had to choose really , it would be John Barrowman. <- (watch here!)
This is one record that will be played at my funeral, no messing, probably as we all troop into the Crematorium, (and yes that may be another blog planning your funeral)
So what is it about this particular piece I adore…? It’s the words, “I am what I am” it gets me every time. I know what I am ‘warts and all’. I see and know so many people who are afraid to be their authentic selves in front of others because of what they might think.
Ask yourself. In both, your personal and professional life is there congruence? Does the Real You stand out – are you authentic or just acting a role in this play called LIFE? YOU should shine out into your life, stand in your own power and be your true self. I have failed quite spectacularly at times by following ‘The Pack’. Those who are known to be Movers & Shakers, bet you know a few of them? Though now I know I’m still a Diva. I just continue to believe in me hence sharing that there should be no gaps between the real you; the business you; the spiritual you; It’s about authenticity; congruence; values; and self-reflection to start with.
Back to the song, the lyrics go on to shout; ‘I don’t want praise, I don’t want pity, I bang my own drum’.
My Diva Drum
What stops you from banging your own drum?
Do you know? What would stop me in my younger days were comments about my weight, gender, lack of qualifications and that’s just to start with. Where does this begin, some would say at school; then jobs; with a slice of media hype thrown in for good measure. Doors would shut in my face because of prejudice and judgmental attitudes. I did bow to this pressure for a time and hide, but then I woke up and started to hit my drum.
The song continues, ‘Why not see things from a different angle?’ And I certainly do that when I watch people; yes my friends will tell you I love talking but I also ‘listen attentively/actively’ watching all manner of body language so I get a more rounded picture. This means that I can let you into a little secret – many of the ‘The Beautiful People’ & ‘Movers & Shakers’ have no real substance once you get under the tip of the Iceberg – they keep everything real locked away. You don’t see the real them.
However, I am so elated that there appears to be a new movement emerging who are fed up of wasting energy being someone they are not. They have ceased espousing values and beliefs that are not theirs and are now just being ‘who they really are’ and it’s not just about the bottom line (yes, ok I know thats important too.) and I’m proud to be associated with them.
I will continue to bang my drum, continue being me even though I am still thought of as being a bit ‘eccentric’, ‘strange’, ‘Woo Woo’ and unconventional in my approach by some. Well, why not? The world would be bloody boring place without a few Divas……The other Divas….You know who you are!
Going back to the lyrics ‘ One life so it’s time to open up your closet’ therefore are you going to open up and release the REAL YOU, dust yourself off, and hit the world as you know you can? We would love you to join us.